Womens InterestsAre You Consumed By Extreme Jealousy?
What comes into your mind with the phrase “consumed with jealousy”? This civil and contemporary society would associate it with a person who is wasted away by too much jealousy that he can harm. In a funny way, say a soluble rock salt is placed in a solvent, (water) it will be dissolved until it is gone. In a relationship, when a man is consumed with jealousy, there are 1001 ways of anticipating the outcome of a relationship in various opinions. All in all, jealousy is simply dependent on a person’s mind-set.
But what is jealousy by the way? Jealousy is an emotional state where a person wants to have what the other person has and the desire to make it happen. An example is when a child gets jealous of the attention given by the parent to a physically incapacitated sibling. It is also the feeling when tends to draw it toward himself and to no one. An example of this is when a man admires a friend’s fiancûe, he dreads the idea that the girl is giving his friend the love he could not have but he longs to divert that love to him alone. The feeling dwells within him for quite a while until it affects his thoughts and moods. It dominates to the point that it creates negative consequences.
The above example, if you will notice is a picture of the typical modern society as it has been declared by the common visual influence or social heredity of this generation that we commonly see in TVs, movies, papers, day to day experiences. Youngsters are either consumed or not by jealousy in a common love affair. There are ways to give it shallow reasoning, counseling, advice, and even self-help solution. As far as monogamous relationship is concerned, love jealousy is a fashion.
But it could give a simple twist if we talk about polygamous marriages like the way it is practiced by some marginalized cultures. When jealousy is a universal feeling of any human being, marital jealousy does not interfere with the functioning of polygamous society. They are never consumed by jealousy. It is strange and ironic that this group of people had been mind-set to a different face of life where they can give their women and daughter for noble reasons. In this case, social orientation has a power on human emotion. Jealousy in this culture lies in a different sublevel of the brain.
Well, what can we do, this is the working of the world, while we are just a piece of it…?
What about a common man consumed by jealousy? In the mainstream world today, there are not only one person getting jealous everyday, but most people. Jealousy is an emotion in which commonness rendered it as an insignificant happening of the days. It is oftentimes associated with insecurity and the loads of negative opinion dominating the reasoning. This emotion is oftentimes dipped in so many mixtures of other tendencies, which psychiatry and divorce courts are dealing with in small or dominating percentage. It is buried in every bits of relating.
While love is a very complex emotional involvement a human can indulge with, it is hard to figure out why it is a mixture of being selfless and at the same time spiced with some amounts of jealousy. That kind of situation is tolerable. When one is consumed by extreme jealousy, it will mean a symptom of a greater problem. It will give birth and attract other negative forces like anger, emptiness, worthlessness, discontentment, procrastination and many other depressive thinking. When one accepts jealousy as part of his love affair or a part of his loving, then it is habit forming. The brain is molded to provide a space for this emotion. A jealous person has a tendency to harm than to give comfort, and to some higher levels of uncontrollable state, it can cause violence and crime.
Jealousy is a part of the world’s social living that will never go away, as it is an emotional state. But it can be controlled if one believes on the capacity of the mind to set an individual influence to it. If sexual jealousy rarely exists in polygamous society, then, why will a common man be consumed by jealousy?